Sagittarius & Commitment
I’ve been reflecting on Sagittarius energy lately. My rising and moon are in Sagittarius and my Sun and Mercury are in the house of Sagittarius. Although I’m a Leo, I find many of my natural tendencies gravitate toward Sagittarius (with hints of Cancer and Virgo).
In October, I became aware of three relationship scenarios that involved Sagittarius sun sign individuals. Three Sagittariuses as prospective relationship material. On the other end of those charming souls were a Gemini, Aries, and Leo — all very compatible with Sagittarius energy, at least on paper. Each respective couple followed an identical story line.
Each date started with a level of curiosity, intrigue, and healthy emotional distance. The date would progress and ended each time with snuggling, warmth, and peacefulness. Physical attraction. Chemistry and comfort. Mutual admiration and intellectual compatibility. However, somehow the following date would start all over again. To a Gemini, Leo, and Aries — what a fun challenge. I have to win them over, again and again. But after a few weeks, even for these playful fire and air signs, they want to know if there is possibility for a relationship.
What’s ironic is that Leo, Aries, and Gemini are some of the most easily bored signs. They want things to be moving, to be fun, playful, and full of excitement. However, something about the emotional wisdom and intellectual charm of Sagittarius makes these signs want to throw in the towel and say, “Well, that was fun life. Had a good time with all of the dating, but I’ve found the one, so I won’t need your help any longer.”
Here’s the interesting part. Every sign has a way of avoiding emotional situations when they have not yet come into their emotional maturity. Gemini will go so far as to date everyone on the planet, deciding that there just isn’t anyone fit for their unique personality and set of interests. Aries will self-develop themselves into the ground, reading every self-help book on the planet believing, “when I really know who I am, I will surely attract the right person.” Leo will continue to develop his creative empire of talents ranging from guitar, painting, sculpture, athleticism, and so on believing, “if I have the competitive advantage, how can anyone beat me to the one I love.”
However, the Gemini, Leo, and Aries we are talking about are beyond their years in emotional wisdom. They happen to have been through years of emotional turmoil to arrive at their current state of emotional wisdom and truth. Their longing for the things they do not have has developed into a healthy urge for self-discovery, joy, and passion in their lives.
Now the downside. Sagittarius’s emotional avoidance technique is subtle, yet manipulative. In terms of emotional manipulation, it’s one of the only clever things the Sagittarius feels comfortable doing. Sagittarius doesn’t want to upset anyone. Their biggest fear is to let others down. And they LOVE to please. But on a subconscious level they KNOW that they’re not ready for a relationship. At the end of the day, their primary concern is: “how have I preserved my freedom?” So they attract relationships that are often damaging because they know they will never work. Even though they may be crushed when they find their partner has cheated on them, in a way they’re relieved. Freedom preserved. On to new and more exciting ventures.
So, what happened then? To be perfectly blunt… the Sagittariuses were actually starting to fall in love. They knew it could work. But they didn’t want it to. So they ran away. And they’ll keep running away until they’ve found their own ways into emotional maturity. Unfortunately, no one else can help them do that. Not saying that the Aries, Leo, and Gemini were ‘better’ than those Sagittariuses… but in a way they were. Sagittarius has a reputation for marrying way late in life or not at all. By the time they figure themselves out, it’s often too late. Not that they won’t find adventure. Oh, they will. But it might not be with you.